When a survivor tries to leave, starts to remember a memory, gets a big breakthrough, or starts to integrate parts of themselves, all hell tends to break lose. Programming can get activated without the survivor’s knowledge, and the script will lie to them non-stop until they can recognize it and replace it with the truth. This is extremely hard to do when you’re in the middle of the script. It is helpful to have a safe person that can help you recognize when something is off.
One of the things that programmers do is to layer in triggers that will go off in a survivor’s system to cause them to quickly destabilize and feel out of control, hopeless, scared, confused, or suicidal if they start to get free. They will also program some of the alters with jobs to cause forgetfulness, confusion, pain, distractions, drowsiness as if you have been drugged, body memories or flooding the system with too many memories at once and more. They have invested a lot of time and money into building their ‘assets’ so that they can do whatever they want without getting caught. These parts need your help; they need you to show them truth and introduce them to Yeshua so that He can heal them.
Survivors need a lot of support in this area until they can start to recognize it themselves and learn to go to Yeshua to get help with it. Sadly, many survivors have zero safe people that are willing to learn how to walk with them as they heal. One of the things I do that helps is to pray daily and ask Yeshua to identify if I have any programming running and how to stop it. If you can have a prayer written out ahead of time, then you can start asking parts to help make sure the prayer gets prayed each day. Keep track of the programs you identify and things that helped with each one.
If you find yourself struggling, go to Yeshua and ask Him who is feeling this way and why? Ask Him to show you if this is not a part that belongs in your system. If it is someone else’s soul part, then repent for anything you agreed to that allowed them to be there, release them and ask Him to take them. Call back any parts that were traded for that part and ask Yeshua to clean them up and reconnect them with you. Try to reconnect to the part of you that holds that memory so that you can see why they are so fearful of healing or sharing with you.
Reassure yourself that everything is going to be okay and you are going to get out. Speak out loud that you have a friend and bodyguard with you 24/7 when you choose Yeshua. Ask Yeshua if you or someone in your system needs to forgive because unforgiveness can stand in the way of your healing. For example, if you have forgiven your dad, but your six-year-old part had to be up front for the sexual abuse all the time, then your six-year-old part also needs to choose to forgive him. Forgiveness allows Yahweh to fight on their behalf and be their vindicator because He can’t go against their free will. In a sense, giving forgiveness means you are getting out of Yahweh’s way and clearing the way for Him to work.
Help them understand that releasing the situation to Him to deal with does not mean that it was okay or that their pain is not valid. Their pain is absolutely valid, and those things should have never happened to them, but we know that Yahweh can deal with our abusers better than we ever could.
Choosing to forgive is giving up your right to get even or retaliate. It is making a decision to stop holding on to the situation and trusting that Yahweh will hold them accountable as the Righteous Judge. It is giving Him permission to handle the situation in whatever way He knows is best because He is all knowing and has all the information of the bigger picture that we don’t know. Once you choose forgiveness, each time the memory comes to mind, thank Him that He is taking care of it and ask Him to help you not to pick it back up or fall back into unforgiveness.
You will often need to start out forgiving as an act of your will when you cannot get in touch with the memory. Full forgiveness occurs when you can feel the emotions and pain of the memory and choose to forgive while reconnecting to that memory. This does not require you to stay stuck there. The overall goal is to help the part of you that went through it feel safe enough to come back into the body then they can choose to repent, forgive, choose Yeshua, and release the pain to Him so that they can heal.
It’s important to know that you will have persecutor parts who will often act in harmful ways but have protective intentions. They have a distorted view of truth and will think they are helping keep the system safe. They are not bad but are often called misguided protectors because they want to keep the host from reliving what they have gone through at any cost. You can help these parts by explaining to them that they are actually hurting the system. Tell them about Yeshua and that they can give their pain to Him. Also, tell them they can quit their job and get a new job that helps the system. Realize that they may be very tired by the time you meet them and needing you to give them permission to rest with Yeshua.
Kindness and compassion will go a long way with persecutor parts. They have been carrying the much too heavy responsibility of keeping everyone safe and feel desperate to be accepted and understood. They will need help understanding that they were tricked and remembering is not bad.
We need to be asking Yeshua to prepare us to be ready to remember because connecting with the memory and working from that connection is how we integrate parts back into our system. We won’t remember until we feel safe, so the more we work with Yeshua, the more we start to remember. Once we feel safe, He will help us remember at a pace we can handle, but if we get ahead of Him and try other things to force the memories, life gets miserable and we will not be able to cope well. Take the time to sit with Him daily and ask Him to show you His truth.
Helpful tips as you start to learn about your programming:
- Do everything with Yeshua. Holy Spirit is the best counselor. Yahweh is your Protector.
- Know who in the system can safely stand in the gap and pray on behalf of the system.
- Be kind and compassionate to your parts. They are often hurting and starved for love.
- Create two binders with prayers to pray – one for home and one for your car.
- there are several websites that have great prayers HERE
- Learn your triggers and create a safety plan. (make several copies)
- The WRAP plan is great. (you can try searching ‘WRAP plan for mental health’ or find YouTube videos on this if the link is blocked in your country)
- Have a list of emergency numbers available before you feel like you are in crisis.
- Ask Yahweh to send you a prayer partner.
- Create a journal with positive entries about yourself and why healing is important to you.
- Include small victories
- Goals
- Favorite quotes and scriptures
- Pictures that are meaningful to you
- Times in the past that you have felt triggered and what you did to overcome it
- A letter of encouragement to your future self
- Make a Coping Skills Box and include things that calm you down such as coloring/drawing supplies, stress ball, stuffed animal, essential oils, peppermints, a favorite lotion, modeling clay, gum, puzzles.
- Tie a wet washcloth in a knot and freeze it. When overwhelmed with emotion, untie the knot.
- Wash your face with cold water or squeeze an ice cube.
- Allow yourself to cry or scream into a pillow.
- Go for a long walk or run.
- Sit with your bare feet in the grass to ground.
- Collect thick books like old encyclopedias or dictionaries from thrift stores that you can rip up.
- Name five things you see, four things you can touch, three things you can hear, two things you can smell and one thing you can taste.
- Say the alphabet backwards.
- Humming will calm your nervous system. Singing is also good.
- Make sure you are staying hydrated, eating healthy, and getting enough sleep. The body will need this to heal from all the trauma it has held for so long.
- Regular exercise helps regulate your nervous system, process emotions and release trauma.
- Remember that prolonged isolation is not your friend.
- Don’t get sucked into the research trap. This can trigger little parts inside. Spend more time with Yeshua than you do researching each day to stay balanced.
- Worship, pray, and build up your spirit to help sustain you during the difficult times.
- This is a great resource for building up your spirit.
Being proactive can make a big difference and minimize the uncomfortable feelings that will surface as you heal. Seek Yahweh about who He wants to be a part of your healing journey – this is important! Not everyone is meant to be a part of your journey. It is better to heal in community, but as many of you know, few people understand SRA and mind control. Warrior Bride Ministries has online groups and classes you can take with like-minded people who understand. Starting in January, they will launch a six-week self-paced online class to help you learn how to meet and work with your system.
Above all else, the best suggestion I can give in whatever you do, make sure you do it with Yeshua. It isn’t just a faith thing; it’s a life and death thing. He is the way, the truth, and the life. The enemy has done a good job of bringing chaos and destruction. You will need the One with the ultimate battle plan to help you get free.
Seeing this healing journey through to the end requires understanding your identity in Christ. This pdf is an excellent resource to read daily. Ask your parts to join in reading it. Read it out loud to the ones that are too young to read. Everyone needs to gain a deep understanding of who they were created to be in Christ, and it will expedite your healing process.